For men, this will likely come after completing your mission trip, so in your early 20s at the earliest. It's unfair to assume that she feels that way without asking her.
Post was not sent - check your email addresses. So yea, I blame residency for his general 'unavailability', and I would assume that is the case with your guy too.
Marriage is serious business and we are in it together despite our spouses shortcomings.