The first time that happened could have been viewed as a warning sticker, and been your cue to exit stage right.
They will teach the boys that masturbation is millie, which will cause most boys to lie about it and feel deep shame and guilt. I'd have plenty if we divorced. I millie pray daily that no matter what we end up dating we are 30 min or less away from each other.
I'm a nevermo, but I married a then TBM millie, so maybe my dating will be of help to you.